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Matt Madden

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A Year in Philadelphia

September 8, 2017 by matt 5 Comments

The new school year seems like a good moment to post about my new life here in the city of brotherly love. I made a decision to keep a low profile online and particularly on my website over the last year so consider this an overdue update to my friends and readers as well as an introduction to those of you who are just becoming aware of me through my occasional appearances here in my home base.

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Tromp l’œil devised by Aldara Madden

I moved to Center City in Philadelphia (Washington Square West to be precise) in August of last year with my wife, Jessica Abel, and our two grade school-aged children. We had been living in Angoulême, France for the last four years where we were both on an extended residency at La Maison des auteurs (still one of the very few residencies specifically for cartoonists and animators). We had been planning to move to Chicago—well, we had first been thinking about Calgary while I considered and later abandoned the notion of pursuing a PhD; then we settled on Columbus, Ohio to be in an affordable city with a burgeoning comics scene only to then decide we should really be in Chicago for various personal reasons—but then, at the last minute, Jessica ended up getting hired as Chair of Illustration at the Pennsylvania Academy of the Fine Arts and so, after an incredibly complicated and exhausting transatlantic move, here we are.
We’ve been freelance artists or adjunct professors of one sort or another as long as we’ve known each other (we hit the 20-year mark this year) and although we have always managed to make it work financially, it was constantly stressful. With Jessica suddenly having a “real” job we find ourselves in a new stage of our life, a reasonably stable financial situation, which for two artists raising children is no mean feat (all you need to do is read the countless testimonies of artists of all stripes struggling to keep going).
Center City

Center City, Philadelphia

With Jessica being the primary breadwinner (she’s juggling her PAFA job with her popular online courses like the Creative Focus Workshop while at the same time wrapping up the third and final volume of Trish Trash: Rollergirl of Mars), I have found myself in the role of full-time homemaker. This decision is largely practical—there’s just no way Jessica can do more than she’s already doing and since I don’t have a regular job it makes sense for me to take over the family stuff (in fact I’ve been doing most of it for several years)—but it’s also in part because I feel like I’ve hit a career wall that has left me discouraged and at a loss as to how I can ever make a living doing the stuff I love to do. (Again, just take a look around online and you’ll see that I have a lot of company in this conundrum). It’s not that I ever expected to be able to sit around and do nothing but make experimental comics (though how I’d love to!), it’s that I’ve been putting on all kinds of hats over the last 20 years to make a living—translation, comic book coloring, editing, writing textbooks, and above all, teaching—and none of those “responsible” and “real” jobs have lead to anything more than a measly adjunct professor’s level of existence. I am lucky to have the pressure taken off of me for a few years so that I can attempt to ease back into the working world on terms that I’m happy with. And I’m aware of how fortunate I am to have the leisure to even think about this stuff—this is not an I-hate-my-life post by any means.

I try not to use scare quotes when I say I’m a homemaker or house husband but I confess I have mixed feelings about the role and its social implications. Mostly, people are very supportive when I tell them what I do (and, implicitly, don’t do, i.e. bring home the bacon) but I have an atavistic insecurity about it and the fact is I do get the occasional raised eyebrow from the alpha male dad types when I tell them I’m a stay-at-home dad. At the same time, I absolutely love being so close to my amazing children all the time. And I’m in good company, too: Chris Ware talks about taking his daughter to school (on a tandem bicycle) in a recent TV documentary and in a recent radio interview Rob Halford and Lars Ulrich of Metallica explained how their entire recording schedule revolves around dropping off their kids in the morning and later shuttling them to after school activities (I can’t find that, was it on WTF with Marc Maron?). And of course I share the company of the vast majority of women who take on this role no questions asked (traditionally at least) and who make up a big part of my daily social life. Incidentally, I’m grateful to my older friends with grown children who remind me constantly to savor these early years that will quickly cross over into the nostalgic memories of irretrievable experiences—it makes me feel like I have a leg up on parents who don’t share that obvious yet urgent insight, one that easily gets lost in the shuffle.
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Art class for “stuffies,” the kind of thing I find in our kids’ room…

So nowadays I make the kids lunch and take them to school, I do errands, I cook and clean house… and most mornings I’m able to spend several hours in my spacious, well-lit studio working on my comics, drawing, and (lately) playing guitar and working on music projects. I find it frustrating to lose most afternoons to busy work but when I reflect on my work life I realize that it’s always been the case that I get a few hours of truly productive work done and spend the rest of the time on a mixture of chores, correspondence, and procrastination—I’m very much a believer in the notion of the 4-hour “true” work day.

 

I recently read Gilbert Sorrentino’s poetic book of short essays, Splendide-Hôtel, and identified with this remark: “It is the artist who lives the non artistic life who is most aware of his painfully absurd position.” (And later on, this darker one: “what little I have to offer, all find useless.”) For the years to come, this is my role to play and I embrace it.

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Comments

  1. Matt Fallaize says

    September 9, 2017 at 6:06 AM

    A lot of this rings true with me. Whilst I do the day job full time, my wife is the main breadwinner (and has been for about fifteen years), it used to grate, which I’m not proud of. The odd hours of my work mean I’m generally the one at the school gate, and it seems strange that I almost feed the urge to justify myself to the mums (I’m generally the only male) “I do stuff, too!” The writing gets fitted in where it can. best of luck with your move, and finding the right balance

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  2. Nancy Ethiel says

    September 9, 2017 at 9:24 PM

    Dear Matt,

    I hear your pain, but I also know that not only are you a great husband and father, but also a terrific cartoonist. I take pleasure every day from my framed picture of “The Republic of Matt” soaring above “The United States of Jessica.” I also know from being a single mother how hard it is to take care of kids while trying to do the work I want– and need–to do. The best thing I can offer is the promise that as the kids grow older, they will also grow more independent (though you may well find that you sometimes miss the closeness you once had with them).

    You’re doing a great job as a father–and as a cartoonist. And sooner than you can imagine, they will have flown the nest.
    So, I guess the best advice I can offer is to hang in there. It will be worth it.

    Love, Nancy

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  3. Anna Moriarty Lev says

    September 13, 2017 at 1:24 PM

    Great post, Matt. As an artist/stay-at-home-parent myself, these are all things I think about daily. Thanks for sharing.

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  4. John Heon says

    September 20, 2017 at 6:35 PM

    Matt,

    First of all, thanks for your inspiring reflections upon your experiences and that gem of a Sorrentino quotation: “It is the artist who lives the non artistic life who is most aware of his painfully absurd position.” At times, I think that being a parent under just about any circumstances can be painfully absurd, but being an artist/intellectual and a parent raises it to the nth degree. In the US in particular, we live in a society that creates a “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” situation for both men and women when it comes to parenting and career demands. What’s actually absurd is that women and men, especially in America, are told by media and society that they are supposed to “have it all, do it all, be it all”–or be considered a failure. I say this as the father of two wonderful kids and as a guy who has, over the years, occupied just about every point on the spectrum from primary breadwinner to primary parent. I’m currently back in the primary breadwinner role, and, yes, would like to have more time to be a dad; of course, when it was the other way around, I was repeatedly told, either directly or indirectly, that I was not being a “real” man because I was spending about two thirds of my time taking care of my kid and the other third writing fiction and poetry and finishing a PhD. Those research fellowship stipends, even when they’re good ones, just don’t cut it in terms of financial virility here in the good old US of A. Being a parent may be painfully absurd, but it’s also undeniably one of the most noble, beautiful, and creative things one can do–as you’ve proven. Until we live in a society that understands and truly values that, both mothers and fathers will continue suffer from these idiotically unrealistic and hypocritical attitudes.

    Cheers, and perseverance,

    John Heon

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  5. matt says

    September 20, 2017 at 7:24 PM

    Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, everyone!

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